If you took all the grief support resources that exist for families who have suffered from miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss and turned them each into a gallon of water, they’d maybe fill a swimming pool. That’s not much when you consider the depth and breadth of this particular kind of grief and who if affects all over the world (nearly everyone in some capacity), but while collecting resources over the past year, I’ve managed to come across far more than I ever expected to find. On top of that, there are countless Instagram accounts and Facebook pages dedicated to the babies whom grieving families love and have lost, myriads of accounts dedicated to the journeys of those struggling to start or complete their families, and an ocean of grief in which they all exist.
Once I began this work, people in my community began to hand off resources to me through messages, phone calls, tags, link shares, and texts. Slowly but surely, over the past two years, I’ve accumulated well over 50 new resources to share here on Amos’ Anchors. Thank you to all who have supported me on this journey and who have passed on information to me. I promise your recommendation or request to be added to the site has not gone ignored. ❤
It is those carefully collected resources that I am currently working on adding to the website, and it feels like a mammoth of a task. The enormity of the task (paired with the overwhelm of making it through our pregnancy with Juniper and living through the past year during the pandemic) left me paralyzed over the past few months in being able to just get started, but as time has marched on, the list has continued to grow and grow, making the task feel heavier and heavier. All of a sudden, it’s nearly spring again, and here I am slowly marching towards the end of April, when we discovered Amos no longer had a heartbeat.
Amos’ birthday is May 4th. He would have been 3 this year.
My new goal is to add a little bit each week to the site leading up to his birthday, so that by the time May rolls around, most of the new resources have been added and organized. This site is, after all, his living legacy, and I have delivered more cards to more places now than ever before. I want this resource to reach those who need it most, and when they find it, I want them to be able to find the resources they need.
So far, I’ve been able to find a lot of new books to recommend, memorial gift shops to list, and other non-profits who are doing the support work virtually through support groups online. The only resource I’ve yet to find is one who will help pay off medical bills after a loss, so if you know of any, please let me know.
Thank you to those who continue to share our posts on social media or in messages to friends who have suffered a loss. By sharing AmosAnchors.org and the posts I’ve made about it on @MommySincerest and @AmosAnchors on Instagram and Facebook, you help get this resource in front of someone who may need it most.
Here’s to a broader scope of resources soon on the site and to the growth of this resource as we continue to expand our reach beyond Indianapolis into neighboring states and beyond.